Best friends vs. Boyfriends

I recently lost my best friend, not that she died, but we broke up as it were. My best friend was everything to me, the one person that I could tell everything to, the one person that knew me in my entirety, the person I knew I could always count on. On knowing that we would never be that close again, I couldn't help but feel as though a little part of me had disapeared. I started thinking about how hard it is to find a best friend, someone that is all you are and not, that fills your gaps but enahances your solid ground, someone that can be all you need. That, is much harder than finding a boyfriend. Losing that is knowing that I'll never find it again.

    Boyfriends are ambiguous things, some are loving, some are funny, some will wrap their arms around you and whisper into your ear how much they love you, but most will ignore you if they want to play COD or FIFA. Boyfriends will have one of these qualities, but they're not expected to have them all. You're looking for someone who has some sort of nice quality amongst a short list of things you like. This makes your odds fairly high in the scheme of things in finding one. Of course, they have to like you back, but as one of my new favourite quotes states "your type is anyone who will let you" and I'm starting to think this is true of everyone of the male persuasion.

     With a best friend, you're not looking for just one thing. One thing won't do. You can't have a best friend who likes shopping but doesn't watch your favourite soap. Likewise a best friend who likes the same music as you but is useless in giving advice becomes useless themselves. A best friend needs to have all qualities. They're expected to like all the things you do, as well as other things which they can introduce you to. They need to encourage you in areas you lack confidence, and subtly tell you when you need to give up on a certain area *Cough* singing *Cough*.

     A best  friend is a skillfully crafted thing. Perfectly suited to each individual. A round peg to a complimentary round hole. Which is why they are so impossible to find. I was lucky to find mine, and stupid to lose her.

     There are the exceptions of course, girls who say their boyfriend is their best friend. These are abnormal girls, or have abnormal boyfriends, something there isn't quite normal. My advice to you is not to try and find one of these, finding a boyfriend is hard, a bestfriend impossible, one of these mergers must be alien at the very least.